Are you someone who remembers how a classmate ill treated you when you were in grade 8; around 25 years back? Do you get welled up with anger and resentment when you recall a negative remark made by someone many years back? Do you keep waiting for your turn to get even with people who might have said something that was contrary to your point of view? Is it very difficult for you to let go? If you identify with any of this, you might be setting yourself up for unhappiness and probably disease and illness.
It has been said that Forgiveness is the virtue of the brave. I agree as it takes a lot of courage to be able to forgive. Forgiveness is a path to Happiness and good health too. People who can forgive easily tend to live in the present and focus on the future. On the contrary people who find it difficult to forgive tent to live in the negative feeling of their past; thus leaving little time to enjoy the present and plan for future. As a result whenever they are not in their past they are worrying about the future (as they never planned for future). All this negative feelings and worry automatically impacts they health and general well being.
When you forgive or let go, you send a clear message to the universe that you have chosen to focus on things far more important. This becomes a habit; a guiding principle. Over a period of time you automatically acquire the art of focusing on things more important and ignoring what does not matter. In turn you will be happier and more successful. Needles to say you attract good health and well being.
Now let's talk about the difficult part - How to forgive and let go if that is not your natural behavior? The truth is that there is no magic bullet. One technique that might help is to evaluate if your thoughts and feelings helping you in some way? Is there anything you can do about it? If you did what you think; would it change the situation? Does it even matter now? etc. Each time your are up against your past ask those questions. Chances are over a period of time your focus will change for good. Another technique is to name your negative thought. Something like "Distraction from my past". And whenever you find yourself in that state tell yourself "Here is Distraction from my past". Once you name it you can always tell yourself "Distraction from my past does not help me in any way. Let me focus on something better". This might help you change focus over a period of time.
In conclusion Forgivers aren't only brave but they are happier and healthier too. So if you are one then keep building on it. If you are not one then try to figure out a few techniques and become one. Forgive your way to Happiness and Health and Success.
It has been said that Forgiveness is the virtue of the brave. I agree as it takes a lot of courage to be able to forgive. Forgiveness is a path to Happiness and good health too. People who can forgive easily tend to live in the present and focus on the future. On the contrary people who find it difficult to forgive tent to live in the negative feeling of their past; thus leaving little time to enjoy the present and plan for future. As a result whenever they are not in their past they are worrying about the future (as they never planned for future). All this negative feelings and worry automatically impacts they health and general well being.
When you forgive or let go, you send a clear message to the universe that you have chosen to focus on things far more important. This becomes a habit; a guiding principle. Over a period of time you automatically acquire the art of focusing on things more important and ignoring what does not matter. In turn you will be happier and more successful. Needles to say you attract good health and well being.
Now let's talk about the difficult part - How to forgive and let go if that is not your natural behavior? The truth is that there is no magic bullet. One technique that might help is to evaluate if your thoughts and feelings helping you in some way? Is there anything you can do about it? If you did what you think; would it change the situation? Does it even matter now? etc. Each time your are up against your past ask those questions. Chances are over a period of time your focus will change for good. Another technique is to name your negative thought. Something like "Distraction from my past". And whenever you find yourself in that state tell yourself "Here is Distraction from my past". Once you name it you can always tell yourself "Distraction from my past does not help me in any way. Let me focus on something better". This might help you change focus over a period of time.
In conclusion Forgivers aren't only brave but they are happier and healthier too. So if you are one then keep building on it. If you are not one then try to figure out a few techniques and become one. Forgive your way to Happiness and Health and Success.
